Tuesday, 16 December 2014

Before I Become a Mrs...

Thank you.

To all of those who contacted me privately, on my blog and my other pages, thank you for sending me your well wishes and keeping me and my family in your prayers. I truly appreciate the love and support I've received for you and although we have never met in person, you have touched me in a way many haven't. I am deeply touched and I'm so glad I shared my previous post about my gran's passing. It and the responses to it has given me strength and reminded me that I need to live as my and my gran's name says I should. I am now home in Tanzania, with my family preparing for my big day. It's comforting to be around fellow mourners and I trust that we will be ok.


So, earlier in the year, after setting my wedding date, I began sharing some bridal styles ideas with you. And although I've already decided on my style for the day (yup yup) I still owe you a couple more to finish the #NB2B Style Inspirations. So before I become a mrs. (hehe), here are my final picks for #NB2B Style Inspirations:

No. 27:

No. 28:

No. 29:

No. 30:

For the #NB2B Series, thank you to all who have sent me your recommendations and tagging my pages. You were all a part of helping me and fellow natural bride to be's figure out a very important part of the bridal look.

This is very likely to be one of if not my last post of the year. Next time I 'see' you, I will tell you alllll about my bridal story. Promise.

Mucho love.


Monday, 8 December 2014

My Sadness

Last week, my beloved grandmother passed away unexpectedly. I thought the world would stop.

I had to start putting the brakes on in many parts of my life in November as wedding plans and end of year work were consuming me. Then, just as I felt that I was re-gaining control I was told the news that she was no longer with us early Saturday morning. I've experienced death in my family and parents of friends, but no one really close to me - whom I had a very consistent relationship with and memories of. I am devastated and still trying to figure out how to come to peace with such an inevitable event.

I was on a flight home to Tanzania merely 6 hours after I heard the news - after panicking and running around to get a last minute ticket out of Joburg. As short notice as it all was, and the number of days I'd lose at work and wedding plans, I had to be there for her funeral which took place on Sunday. I was back at work and wedding planning on Wednesday.

I thought the world would've stopped.

And it dawned on me; this sadness that I'm carrying around, no one else is currently feeling. People are still laughing, joking, carrying on with life. The world seems to have forgotten about the news and wonder why I'm still sad. "You're getting married! You should be excited!" "Why so sad?" "You should be happy, she would've wanted you to be excited". And I'm tired of people telling me how I should feel. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I always have. I want - and need - to feel it. Process it and get to a place where I'm not spontaneously crying during the day.

With my wedding literally around the corner, I'm a bag of emotional mess. I don't feel like I've had a chance to sit still and breathe. There has been no time. So here I am, taking a moment to share this with you in the hopes that it will alleviate some of the heaviness that's in my heart. And the few times it feels less heavy is when I remember that the last time I saw her a couple of months ago, she had met my future husband and gladly gave him her stamp of approval. She was so excited for me, and I'm grateful that I was given that chance. I'm looking to God to help me and my family through this so we are not carrying as much sadness on what's supposed to be my happiest day.

I was named after my grandmother. 'Aisha' means life; she who lived. And lived she did.

RIP Bibi x

Thursday, 30 October 2014

2014 Protective Style 4: Braids...finally!

I finally have braids!!!

After over two years of avoiding them, I finally gave in and sat my bum down to get these babies installed. And boy am I loving them.

It's crunch time for me at the moment, a few more weeks left until my wedding story officially starts. I'm all over the place. And I knew this was going to happen. So instead of putting Fro through some unnecessary hair pulling and neglect, I decided to preserve the growth I'd been working for this year and put her away until the wedding. My regular readers would know that whenever I decide it's time for my next style, braids are always an "option". That had to be in quotes because I'd contemplate them, then decide... nah, I'm not willing to go through the inevitable 5 - 10 hours getting them done. I did it as a teen religiously every three months and refuse to put myself through that in adulthood. Yet every time I'd see another woman rocking braids, a lil place in my heart would squeal "but...I want to rock those too". Well, it only took my stylist 4.5 hours to do this:

I purposefully asked her to do biggish ones so to avoid breakage especially on my hairline which I need intact for December! My current go to style is the messy bun/top knot. To reduce the heaviness, I make sure to place the bun right on top of my head so that it balances and doesn't pull back. My initial regret was that I should've made them longer but after having them in for two weeks, I've figured out a quick way to still get the ooompf I was looking for with longer ones. I know I'm a small person but I just love big hair!

Simple, carefree and so easy to work with. I don't know how I've managed to stay away from them for so long.


Monday, 27 October 2014

30 #NB2B Style Inspirations: No. 26

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Monday, 20 October 2014

30 #NB2B Style Inspirations: No. 25

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Saturday, 18 October 2014

What I Tried: Ruutos Moisture Collection

As you know, I'm always excited to hear about new products. Even more so when they're locally made!

Ruutos Hair is well known for their impressive range of hair extensions but they're now also offering us some hair products. What I really liked about this range is that they kept it simple. It's not an overwhelming range that has two or three products that confuses you and seem to do the same thing. They each have a clear cut reason for being and have named them appropriately so it's newbie natural friendly too. I gave their Moisture Collection a go cos God knows Fro and I need moisture moisture moisture in our lives. All of the products are sulphate and paraben free and are safe to use on dyed hair. Here's my two cents...

The Good Stuff

  • Even though it's a sulphate free shampoo, it still lathers nicely (which I honestly miss in most sulphate free shampoos). 
  • It smells like minty-eucalyptus type of freshness
  • Cleaned my hair without it feeling completely stripped of moisture

The Not So Good Stuff
  • I wish it had left my hair feeling more moisturised. Even though it didn't strip it dry, it wasn't as moisturising as I'd have liked. Hey, the more spongey my hair is, the happier I am.

The Good Stuff

  • Great slip - it went on my hair easily and effortlessly. 
  • The consistency is great. For a normal conditioner it was incredibly thick so I didn't need a lot to cover my hair with it.

The Not So Good Stuff
  • Nothing comes to mind!

The Good Stuff

  • It doesn't have a strong scent - it's quite neutral which is great as it doesn't linger on my hair. By the time I finish washing I usually prefer my hair to smell light or neutral so throughout the week it's still fresh (and not an old smell).

The Not So Good Stuff
  • On its own, I didn't find it moisturising enough so I added a few drops of their Growth Elixir which is a mix of oils in a bottle with an applicator. Once I did that, it helped 

The Good Stuff

  • It also doesn't have a strong scent which a lot of hair masks do.
  • A little goes a long way. 
  • This product is great when you add some of the Growth Elixir to it. It really softened my hair and left it feeling elasticated too.

The Not So Good Stuff
  • It's such a slight moan (sorry!) but the packaging on the tub I have doesn't have application instructions. It's not a train smash because I figure it out, just wondering about the newbies out there!
Overall, I'd suggest to buy these products as the entire range together as one really works following on from the other. I think it's great that more brands are making themselves more locally accessible both from a cost perspective and proximity one too. Cheers to Ruutos for thinking further into our hair needs and providing a products line for us.

You can get more info on Ruutos and their Moisture Collection from their website ruutos.com and Facebook page.


Monday, 13 October 2014

30 #NB2B Style Inspirations: No. 24

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